Criticism and Evaluation

The Effective Communication Class at Greystone Preparatory School consists of three specific components:

  1. Planned, prepared and presented speeches
  2. Profound thinking extemporaneous comments
  3. Evaluation and feedback, commonly called Criticism

All of our students are leaders and high-performance candidates for the military service academies. The following is a portion of my lecture and class presentation on Becoming the Best You.

“Worthwhile leaders with vision can count on receiving criticism. It is a hazard in most occupations and professions.  Criticism can be constructive and positive; it can also be negative and destructive. Intense critical comments have caused many leaders to throw in the towel, give up and quit. I am reminded of the remarks of Theodore Roosevelt when speaking about this subject,

“it is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena – – – – – far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat”.

Leaders must have a sense of humor and the ability to receive criticism.  Additionally, the leader must be able to filter any criticism from fact or fiction. Criticism is best handled by holding on to your wits; responding instead of reacting; asking questions; listening more and talking less; do not be emotional, keep your voice lower and your inflection slower; consider the source; refuse to be discouraged and keep marching toward your goal, vision and mission.

Time is important

Time is an important asset. Time is indispensable and irreplaceable. The average age of life expected is approximately 74. Divide that number by 2 and you get 37.  Middle Age, Maybe ?? Do you have more yesterdays or tomorrows? What is the value of time in your life expectancy?

The Value of A Minute:
24 Hours in A Day;
x 60 minutes in an hour
1440 minutes in a day
x365 days in a year
525,600 minutes in a year
x 10 cents a minute paid for the year – assumed
$52,560 paid for the year – assumed


With the time remaining what will you do to create a Legacy for your life?
Time is priceless. Do not waste it; Do not kill it:

“How you spend your time defines who you are.” – Oprah Winfrey


 

The Gift of Time

Give Someone your time today! Spending time with a person you love is the most important gift you can give. Check out my new channel on Youtube. More coming soon.

Father’s Day

Father’s Day is coming this week. Here are some penetrating suggestions and observations.

1. Presents instead of Presence – we are tempted to give material things instead of giving ourselves and personal involvement. Children spell love and caring T-I-M-E. Nothing takes the place of a father who is involved with their children.

2. Lecturing instead of listening and learning. Children are not employees; you are respected at work due to position but at home respect is earned over time.

3. Demanding perfection above excellence – we tend to set expectation very high with results out of reach. Children want to please their parents.

4. Cultivating the secular over the spiritual – your wife and children long for you to set the spiritual culture of the family. Help your family know you love God and desire to honor Him.

The greatest gifts a father can give to his children are:

Love God and their Mother with all your heart. Father and Mother are on the same team. God Bless You and Your Family.

1 Hour Session Giveaway!

This Month Only – We are giving away FREE 1 Hour Coaching Sessions to 3 Winners!

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If your name is drawn you could win a 1-hour personal coaching session with Kenneth O’Neal, a Zig Ziglar Certified Coach and Trainer and a copy of Tom Ziglar’s latest book. Winners will be contacted by the end of May to claim their free session.

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The Power of Effective Communication

Effective Communication creates winning, healthy, good relationships where we are kind to each other, we listen at an empathetic level and we tell the truth.

Creating a healthy relationship is built on integrity, controlling emotions especially temper, eliminating pointing the finger with criticism and condemnation, applying the rule of treating others the way you want to be treated and concentrating on the positive.

The moral definition of Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is looking. Strong relationships must be built on a strong foundation of trust, honesty and integrity. Trust is confidence in the integrity and abilities of people. The structural definition speaks of the force the structure can withstand or the strength of the foundation or building.  In our current culture, integrity matters because without integrity bad things happen.

The top level of Enron management lied, misrepresented financial and economic information, and cheated many people out of millions of dollars of savings and retirement income.  The word integrity was in the Statement of Core Values for Enron. The month before the Enron discretions were found and the Company failed, Ken Lay was on the cover of Continental Airlines magazine as a person of integrity. Integrity is displayed when we say what we mean and mean what we say.  It is all about taking personal responsibility for individual actions and being a positive example for others. Living a life of integrity brings many benefits such as a life of joy, contentment, satisfaction with nothing to hide or fear. You will become known as loyal and someone who can be counted on in times of need.

A lack of integrity in personal relationships creates mistrust, anger, and non-existent communication. Distrust is suspicion of character, agenda, capabilities and track record.  It is important to understand the distinction and the difference between responding and reacting.  Responding builds strong relationships because we measure, think, and select our words thoughtfully and very carefully, and act in ways that build positive relationships. Relationships grow stronger where there is trust and encouragement. Reacting creates an environment of fear, negativity and mistrust with thoughtless actions and words.  In reacting we use our instincts and behave as if all the trouble in the relationship is the fault of the other person. People act like victims and do not take responsibility for their actions. Relationships erode in the Blame Game environment.  In other words, treat others like you want to be treated and the way you want your loved ones treated.  On a personal basis, we all want to be treated with kindness, respect, courtesy, love and appreciation.

Build your relationships based on the philosophy of doing and serving others and also looking for the good in others. Look for the positive character in all people. The more we look for the good qualities, the more good qualities we will find.  Always praise the performer publicly and criticize a bad performance in private.