The Power of Effective Communication

Effective Communication creates winning, healthy, good relationships where we are kind to each other, we listen at an empathetic level and we tell the truth.

Creating a healthy relationship is built on integrity, controlling emotions especially temper, eliminating pointing the finger with criticism and condemnation, applying the rule of treating others the way you want to be treated and concentrating on the positive.

The moral definition of Integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is looking. Strong relationships must be built on a strong foundation of trust, honesty and integrity. Trust is confidence in the integrity and abilities of people. The structural definition speaks of the force the structure can withstand or the strength of the foundation or building.  In our current culture, integrity matters because without integrity bad things happen.

The top level of Enron management lied, misrepresented financial and economic information, and cheated many people out of millions of dollars of savings and retirement income.  The word integrity was in the Statement of Core Values for Enron. The month before the Enron discretions were found and the Company failed, Ken Lay was on the cover of Continental Airlines magazine as a person of integrity. Integrity is displayed when we say what we mean and mean what we say.  It is all about taking personal responsibility for individual actions and being a positive example for others. Living a life of integrity brings many benefits such as a life of joy, contentment, satisfaction with nothing to hide or fear. You will become known as loyal and someone who can be counted on in times of need.

A lack of integrity in personal relationships creates mistrust, anger, and non-existent communication. Distrust is suspicion of character, agenda, capabilities and track record.  It is important to understand the distinction and the difference between responding and reacting.  Responding builds strong relationships because we measure, think, and select our words thoughtfully and very carefully, and act in ways that build positive relationships. Relationships grow stronger where there is trust and encouragement. Reacting creates an environment of fear, negativity and mistrust with thoughtless actions and words.  In reacting we use our instincts and behave as if all the trouble in the relationship is the fault of the other person. People act like victims and do not take responsibility for their actions. Relationships erode in the Blame Game environment.  In other words, treat others like you want to be treated and the way you want your loved ones treated.  On a personal basis, we all want to be treated with kindness, respect, courtesy, love and appreciation.

Build your relationships based on the philosophy of doing and serving others and also looking for the good in others. Look for the positive character in all people. The more we look for the good qualities, the more good qualities we will find.  Always praise the performer publicly and criticize a bad performance in private.

Join Me April 2nd

Join me in Seguin on April 2, 2019 at 12:00 Noon at the Rotary Club of Seguin for my presentation on Effective Communication.

Effective Communication is the proper exchange of thought, messages, beliefs, feeling, goals, values, facts or information. The keyword is exchange. Effective Communication is not texting on your telephone.  The quality of the message plus the quality of the delivery minus any interference equals the effectiveness of communication. You can control what you say, how you say it, how you look, and how you act in situations of communication. Effective Communication is a contact sport!

Is There a Divine Call?

Is there a specific divine call on the United States of America?  Would that call be valid in the 21st century?

During the birth of the United States in the 18th century, George Washington, John Adams and Thomas Jefferson along with many others of similar educational backgrounds were taught by using the Bible and its teachings of morality, integrity, respect and concern for others.

More than 90% of their learning came from these sources. In the early part of the 21st century, less than 5 % of a public-school education speaks about honesty, integrity, respect and morality.

To save our nation, we must create a positive attitude of self-governance and self-discipline. There must be a strong commitment to learning, responsibility and accountability along with the knowledge of the difference between right and wrong.

I believe no matter where you are on the political spectrum you will agree with me our leadership on all sides and all levels is not as strong as we would prefer. In many friendly conversations, I often hear associates and colleagues comparing our leadership to the greats of the past. One of the most admired of those many greats was founding father George Washington. He was the first President of the United States and the commander-in-chief of the Continental Army during the American Revolutionary War.  General Washington led a feisty spirited group of young American rebels to one of the greatest military upsets of all times. They won the fight for our freedom and independence. George Washington was a man of great moral character and integrity obtained through the teachings of the Holy Scriptures in the early days of America.

Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of Great Britain, did a magnificent job as she turned the economy around, helped restore pride to England and gave a sense of purpose and direction to her people.  She was a lady of unquestionable credentials and a strong moral foundation. She stated, “freedom does not include freedom from responsibility”.  She believed in a strong rule of law.  In 1995, Prime Minister Thatcher spoke to the students and faculty of Harding University in Arkansas. During the questions, she was asked, “what is the greatest challenge for the United States”?  She quickly replied, “it is not social, it is not economic, it is moral”.  She often spoke of her admiration for the principles on which America was founded.  She said the Quakers came to America to practice their religion their own way.

Baron de Tocqueville of France toured the United States in the 1830’s and made these remarks related to the greatness of America. He said the greatness of America is not found in the richness or breadth of the land. America is great because it is good; as long as America is good, it will be great. If America ceases to be good, she will cease to be great. The Baron stated, “the source of America’s greatness and strength is found in the churches of the land”.

The Prime Minister of Great Britain and the Baron from France spoke words of wisdom. We must face the reality of today and agree we are in a serious moral decline; we must change and be intentional about rebuilding the greatness and the goodness of America. Make a decision and a commitment to do your part.

I want to hear your thoughts – Make a comment here or feel free to e-mail me at: merger@windstream.net

 

Are You Giving 100% of Yourself?

Success means many different things to different people.  Zig Ziglar said in his book “See You At The Top”, “the best definition of ultimate success is the use of your God given skills and talents to their fullest extent”. Are you giving 100% of yourself all the time and to all opportunities? Do you have a strong work ethic?  Do you add value to other people? Do you have an abundance mentality? Are you a motivator, an encourager and a giver of hope to others?

In your personal growth and development program, you must have an open mind full of curiosity and be willing to change. You must prepare a written plan of wishes and dreams to be turned into goals. The achievement will be based on your values and principles.  You must be the right person, do the right things; then and only then, can you have all this wonderful world has to offer.

There can be no cruise control or autopilot.  You must live aware, intentional and with self discipline.

E-mail me at: merger@windstream.net to talk about how you can achieve more.

Daily Times Article

Here’s a link to an article that made the front page of the local newspaper – the Kerrville Daily Times about my presentation on President’s Day.

http://dailytimes.com/promotions/article_224a9ca0-35e5-11e9-86f9-5fcc13e69c42.html

Patriotism and Heroes

IMG_1638On President’s Day, February 18, 2019, I was blessed and honored to speak to the group: Hill Country Retired School Employees. My speech’s title was “A Case for Patriots, Patriotism and Heroes”. Here are some of my thoughts, ideas and beliefs about America and our patriots.

President’s Day is celebrated the third Monday of February each year. Prior to 1968, The Holiday was simple and known as Washington’s Birthday celebrated on February 22nd.  Lincoln’s Birthday is also in February on the 12th of the month. In 1968, Congress passed the Monday Holidays Act which moved the official observance of Washington’s Birthday from February 22nd to the third Monday in February. Some reformers had wanted to change the name of the Holiday as well to President’s Day in honor of the birthdays of both Washington and Lincoln.  The proposal was rejected and failed to pass Congress in 1968. The holiday remained an official holiday for Washington’s Birthday.  In 1971, President Nixon proclaimed the holiday as President’s Day to commemorate all past presidents not just Lincoln and Washington.

Patriotism is national pride and the love and respect of country.  It is to take pride in one’s origin and work for the prosperity of the country.  As a patriot, it is important to show patriotism in our actions and be proud of the United States. To be a patriot means to zealously love and support the United States and its interests. A patriot is loyal to the USA, its people, its political system and works for the country’s development. Being a patriot does not mean you have to agree with everything from the individuals who are in power.  It is a loyalty towards our country and its political system and not towards any specific political leader or party.

Patriotism’s definition in the dictionary cannot be properly defined.  No two people will have the same explanation of what patriotism means to them.  It is difficult to measure; it is shown by unselfish acts in which a person serves their country and their people. From the Founding Fathers to those serving today at home and abroad, their hearts and spirits are filled with the will to protect our freedom. Pride and patriotism go hand in hand. Pride is good for our self-esteem and so is patriotism. Pride improves our self-perception.

One of the most important symbols of our country is the American flag.  We are proud of our country and the flag expresses that feeling of pride.
“One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind”.  This statement was made by Neil Armstrong as he placed the American flag on the moon.  This act unified our Nation with a patriotic spirit held deep inside us all. Neil Armstrong’s love for all people, and the recognition of the efforts of all employees at NASA, and the support of all Americans, in that ONE sentence was an act of patriotism. Neil Armstrong was a great patriot.

Patriotism is the love of our country. Some patriotic people have strong nostalgic feelings, their beliefs and cultural values are important to them. There are many ways to show patriotism like: joining the military, running for political office or just saying the pledge of allegiance every morning.

In my opinion, no one exemplifies the true meaning of Patriotism more than our former Presidents. One of the most admired founding fathers was George Washington.  He was the first President of the United States and the Commander-in-Chief of the Continental Army during the American Revolutionary War. The General led a spunky group of young American rebels to one of the greatest military upsets of all times. They won the fight for our freedom and independence. The General was the first President to preside over our great country.  Another great leader and former President was Dwight D. Eisenhower; the 34th President of the United Stated from 1953 until 1961. Eisenhower was a general in the United States Army during World War II and served as the Commander-in-Chief of the allied forces. These two outstanding Presidents demonstrated patriotism by serving as role models and leaders who were willing to fight for and die for their country. The love of America is in the hearts of the many men and women who are currently serving in the armed forces.

From the early colonists fighting the tyranny of English rule, the battle heroics of Audie Murphy, and to fallen veterans today in Iraq and Afghanistan, they were and still are driven by a common bond of love of country and protection of our freedoms.